Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
A PLACE TO EXPLORE IDEAS
AND HAVE CONVERSATIONS
When we exit the ALIVENESS of our vulnerability.
While the specific ways we practice hostility toward our bodies while trying to conceive are many, they generally fall into two categories, matching to our early attachment patterns.
1. We come to fertility challenges specializing in avoiding, denying, suppressing, and repressing our vulnerabilities – by engaging in numbing activities or by weaving narratives of blame and victimhood, and how something is wrong with us.
2. We come to fertility challenges urgently and frenetically seeking relief from our vulnerability through a very anxious engagement with others and the world; mainly the medical system.
Many of the women in my practice know what it’s like to engage in behavior designed to get us out of very vulnerable states of being, but through the Mindful Fertility process many also discover that the quickest and most reliable way to get relief from their vulnerability is to start THINKING.
In a fraction of a second, we can dissociate from the pain of not being pregnant and spin the most seductive tale about what has happened, about how fair or unfair it is, about why we are “infertile,” about who is to blame, about what it all means, and about how something is wrong with us.
Before we know it, we have lost contact with the precious reality of our tender, raw, vulnerable bodies – and have begun to start thinking ‘about’ our experience rather than actually ‘having’ it.
We think that by thinking we are creating opportunities for healing, but abandoning our body is never healthy.
If we will practice being mindful, get very curious, and cultivate the desire to know what is happening in our ovaries, in our uterus, in our reproductive system, we may start to discover that labeling ourselves as “infertile” and exiting the aliveness of intense states of vulnerability may be seen as the ultimate act of self-aggression.
Self-aggression is not bad or wrong or evidence of our failure – it is simply out-of-date and inefficient.
It was the best way we learned to care for ourselves as young children – to weave stories in the attempt to make meaning when our needs were not being met.
The Mindful Fertility Project helps you reverse this cycle of turning away from yourself and offer yourself the gift of self-kindness instead.
The meditations will help you stay close to your embodied vulnerability at this time.
The practices will help you turn toward yourself, your body, life and God and end the unkind activity of abandonment in all its forms.
We do not need our narratives of “infertility,” shame, and blame to protect us any longer from our own hearts.
We can take the risk required to love ourselves so deeply that we will do anything to stay, to not abandon ourselves any longer, and to no longer blame others, ourselves, our bodies and the world for our experience, for our feelings of loneliness, grief, abandonment and fear.
It is the ultimate act of self-kindness to stay close to your embodied vulnerability, to withdraw the projections of an unhealthy body, cruel world and ‘bad me,’ and to recognize the majesty of what you are.
It is a simple path, in many ways, but not an easy one.
It is the path of love and it is what you are trying to conceive.
(Adapted from Matt Licatta).
When my son was 3 years old, approx. one year after he acquired language, he asked me, “Why doesn’t Daddy love me?”
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The appearance of new ways of thinking and communicating, between 70,000 & 30,000 years ago, constitutes the Cognitive Revolution. These new ways of thinking and communication enabled humans to conquer the world.
THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE tool I teach women who are having trouble conceiving or carrying to term is this:
Acknowledge the pain, the shame, the loss, the powerlessness, without needing it to go away (without aversion).
Your fertility story is the very foundation of the Mindful Fertility process. Even if you’ve done tons of therapy, as you pursue your longing for a child, as your vulnerability increases, as you heal, change your behavior, change your state of consciousness, at every new level of growth and expansion, it’s your fertility story that determines your “success” because the image of a successful cycle is held in your implicit memory – deep in your sub-conscious mind.
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.