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Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
The ONLY thing better than getting what you want…
This holiday season, the kindest thing I can offer you is to sit in the certain VITALITY of the pain with you, removing the burden that you feel better, heal or buy my stuff in order for your dreams to come true.
I could try and sell you that immediate action is called for and that you must urgently shift your depression to joy, your sadness to bliss, or your hopelessness to hope so in 2016 you will be one of the “lucky ones.”
But you’ve already been sold that and in doing so, I would invalidate the aliveness and the intelligent unfolding of your experience, exactly as it is.
You see from my perspective, it requires a profound degree of courage and trust to no longer pathologize the activity of your body’s world, and to really see that “infertility” is not evidence that something is wrong in your body which must be corrected or ‘cured’ by psychological or medical process.
Instead, on the shortest day of the year I am writing to remind you that you are not broken.
Your experience is VALID, and you do not need to ‘get over it,’ ‘relax,’ focus only on the ‘positive,’ or experience something different than you are.
Loss, sadness, shame, grief, and rage are ancient travelers on an old journey.
Loneliness, disappointment, confusion, and fear are secret messengers of the dark AND of the light sent from inside you to remind you NOW of a fertility that you have been systematically taught to deny.
But loss has not given up.
It will continue to erupt out of your fertile body as an emissary of integration, unfolding greater levels of cohesion and drawing you to wholeness.
It’s invitation is simultaneously wild, loving, and outrageously fierce: “dare to see that you have always, already been whole,” loss says.
Surrender the spell of unworthiness and the dream of a love coming in the future this holiday season.
Love is only now. Here in the darkness.
There’s only one thing that’s better than getting what you want this holiday: it’s to know that you are at peace whether you get it or not.
All my very best, always,
When my son was 3 years old, approx. one year after he acquired language, he asked me, “Why doesn’t Daddy love me?”
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The appearance of new ways of thinking and communicating, between 70,000 & 30,000 years ago, constitutes the Cognitive Revolution. These new ways of thinking and communication enabled humans to conquer the world.
THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE tool I teach women who are having trouble conceiving or carrying to term is this:
Acknowledge the pain, the shame, the loss, the powerlessness, without needing it to go away (without aversion).
Your fertility story is the very foundation of the Mindful Fertility process. Even if you’ve done tons of therapy, as you pursue your longing for a child, as your vulnerability increases, as you heal, change your behavior, change your state of consciousness, at every new level of growth and expansion, it’s your fertility story that determines your “success” because the image of a successful cycle is held in your implicit memory – deep in your sub-conscious mind.
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.