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Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
Self Doubt vs I’m Not Sure How This Will Turn Out
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.
In the first missed month of trying to conceive most women report becoming concerned.
Growing concern quickly turns into burgeoning self-doubt within three months of trying.
At six months, deep concern has begun to take root and often times self-doubt becomes debilitating.
As delays persist, thoughts about time, success, belonging and life’s purpose intersect with this gnawing self-doubt causing significant stress and uncertainty.
For my clients, this negatively impacts their sense of self worth and their identity. Which ultimately affects their physical and emotional well-being.
So the question becomes, how do you let the truth about situational doubt (I’m not sure how this will turn out) flow through you while trying to conceive without allowing it to undermine your beliefs about your self?
The answer is a multi-layered process.
First, you must bring to consciousness the automatic thoughts, cultural norms and societal demands that are pushing you to believe that “it” must happen now and that “it” means you are successful as a woman.
Second, you must eat well, detoxify your environment and let LIFE surprise you while you express yourself in ways that are joyful, passionate and whole.
Make love, see what happens.
Focus on awareness itself, see what happens.
Eat great food, see what happens.
Do what you love, see what happens.
Get out of auto-pilot, see what happens.
Get a physician’s opinion, see what happens.
Stop believing your thoughts, see what happens.
Stop believing other people’s thoughts, see what happens.
Love yourself as you are, see what happens.
Do stuff that makes you feel alive, see what happens.
Express your feelings, see what happens.
Do an IVF cycle, see what happens.
Go to therapy, see what happens.
Grieve that life is uncertain, see what happens.
Keep on living, see what happens.
Make space for the unknown, see what happens.
Creating is part of you.
Clear out the beliefs you’ve been taught that manufacture shame, fear, powerlessness and self doubt.
Be unapologetic about your fertility. It isn’t linear.
Embodying your wholeness and your passion is your fastest path to success.
You keep experimenting, and stop worrying about the HOW! (Because you can’t know how it will turn out)!
Focus on BEING the WHO that is able to receive LIFE in all of its uncertainty.
Fertile things happen when you do
All my very best, always,
When my son was 3 years old, approx. one year after he acquired language, he asked me, “Why doesn’t Daddy love me?”
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THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE tool I teach women who are having trouble conceiving or carrying to term is this:
Acknowledge the pain, the shame, the loss, the powerlessness, without needing it to go away (without aversion).
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Most women and couples who earnestly begin to practice mind-body medicine, have found that analytical thinking and rational problem solving based on implicit dominant cultural ideas about the body; paradigms that use Newtonian physics to think about matter, paradigms informed by patriarchy, haven’t helped them solve the riddle of their symptoms.