A PLACE TO EXPLORE IDEAS
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Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
Is the way you’ve been taught to think about “infertility” helping you conceive?
Most of you, most of the couples I work with, have been thinking and using rational problem solving to become fertile and/or have a baby.
And I encourage everyone to do this. Rational problem solving got you here, for example. You’ve determined this is a good resource for you. Analytical thinking can be an extremely useful form of thinking.
Many of you have consulted with a doctor. They use analytical thinking and rational problem solving based on Newtonian principles. I encourage you to seek their perspective.
But most women and couples who earnestly begin to practice mind-body medicine, have found that analytical thinking and rational problem solving based on implicit dominant cultural ideas about the body, paradigms that use Newtonian physics to think about matter; paradigms informed by patriarchy, haven’t helped them solve the riddle of their symptoms.
You are not yet pregnant.
And you’ve been thinking about this and problem solving for years! And so have your doctors!
And so you are looking for other ways to understand yourself, your body and your perceived disease.
Here are different ways to begin to understand how you’ve been taught to think.
1. Automatic thinking – is initial, reflexive, automatic reactions and analysis. “You have a disease.” or “You are infertile.” These are conventional, automatic ways of thinking about women’s bodies in 2019.
They are based on cultural ideas.
These dominant cultural paradigms are held in your sub-conscious. In other words, you don’t have to think about what you’ve been taught a body is, a woman is, your worth is, a disease is, the sequencing of life events etc… All of these ideas are in your implicit memory. A female body is a female body. It does this. This understanding is based on years and years of your experiences with your body, including what your parents believe about your body and what the culture believes about your body.
The programs in the sub-conscious mind come from downloading other people’s behavior and beliefs. Mother, father, siblings, community, doctor, society, church.
2. Deliberative thinking – is thinking about how you’re thinking. “What is the body? Who am I?” You realize the riddle of your physical symptoms cannot be solved from your implicit, automatic understanding your body (or you’d be pregnant by now). So you contemplate other ways to think about yourself, your ability to heal and your body.
3. Mindfulness – The practice of separating the fundamental aspects of who you are, from the ways you’ve been taught to think about who you are. When you get some distance from your implicit ways of thinking, the ways you’ve been taught to think, a space emerges and new insight comes into your awareness.
Mindfulness is a way to problem solve that doesn’t use thinking.
You want insight.
To get insight you have to change the way you look at things.
I hope you’ll join us.
All my very best, always,
Your fertility story is the very foundation of the Mindful Fertility process. Even if you’ve done tons of therapy, as you pursue your longing for a child, as your vulnerability increases, as you heal, change your behavior, change your state of consciousness, at every new level of growth and expansion, it’s your fertility story that determines your “success” because the image of a successful cycle is held in your implicit memory – deep in your sub-conscious mind.
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.
On your journey to conceive you have no doubt become aware of at least one or two waves of despair rising and falling within you. At times you feel down, hopeless, uninspired and unable to find any meaning.
Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your desire for a child. It’s so human, to have some yearning in the heart, some longing for connection, to be met in presence, to be seen, to be heard, to be touched, to be held and to hold.
Let’s talk about the brain again. We know from the findings in neuroscience that the mental and emotional changes we can create through mindfulness are transformational at the very physical level of the brain. By developing the ability to focus our attention on our internal experience in the Mindful Fertility meditations, we are picking up a scalpel we can use to re-sculpt our neural pathways, stimulating growth of areas of the brain that are crucial to mental health and fertility.
When I began my work with Dr. Smikle, Reproductive Endocrinologist and Medical Director at Laurel Fertility Care, in SF, California, I felt the impulse to try to find the culprit, to try to fix “infertility” for men and women trying to conceive.