Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
THANK YOU BUFFY
Dear Buffy, Your work remains active in me daily. It has transformed my life. Your mindful fertility prosess started me on a journey that has blessed me with liberation from a long dark night of the soul—I could say a lifelong night of the soul. I came to your work bereft of hope, filled with suffering, and with no light in sight. I left with tools that blossomed over these couple of years into a deep practice in the art of living. Living richly in the face of continued great loss. The debilitating anxiety, fear, anger and disappointment that characterized how I internally met life have metamorphosed into mostly fleeting moments that come and go as I watch, often with a healthy dose of compassion in that gaze—unheard of prior to mindfulness practice being my daily bread! Their hold on my mind has decreased to the point that I marvel at how I made it through all the years of living in such suffering. What a gift it was to find your work and be generously given the tools to begin my journey back to myself! I’d been searching for so very long for healing, trying many things, but had never seen clearly enough to realize that the practice of presence was absolutely foundational to any healing for me.
Ever since I began, I’ve meditated an hour a day, with few exceptions. It was hard to do, a daily commitment, and remains thus. But the benefits! It’s like all that work sets me up to bring mindfulness into the whole day, moment by moment. Oh, my mind goes flying all over the place, but now I catch it again and again and again, throughout the day, reground, show up again; and in doing so, I stop terrorizing myself with my thoughts. More and more over time, I catch myself before my body has gripped in fear, regret or dark anticipation. Or if I’m too late, I can now give myself some kindness, breathing myself back off the ledge. “Yes. This, too. This, too.” Of course, I haven’t been magically relieved of all my Stuff—I fall about constantly—but I’m finally there to pick myself up. And with ever-diminishing Germanocatholic self-berating! Indeed, compassion for myself continues to take root. And that is MIRACULOUS.
Life has become richer and much more interesting. My marriage has grown. All of my relationships have deepened. I have been reunited in a heartfelt way with my family, and the tenor of my friendships is fuller, sweeter. I don’t dread myself and my lacks very much anymore, and can share this newfound peace with those I love.
In order to show up, I have had to fundamentally change the pace of my life. Slow way, way down. Hurry is tantamount to anxiety for me. My adrenals took a big toll from my prior mode of existence. Since adolescence, I’ve experienced the symptoms of PTSD, but now instead of being frustrated about that and simply pushing on through to my detriment, I practice accepting what it is, and letting it guide how I structure my days. This has required a quiet kind of life without much socializing or go-getting. It’s quite hard on one level, as I long have wanted to expand and deepen my work, spend more time with my friends, visit my family more often, make and maintain a great big luscious vegetable garden, etc. But learning to honor my energy limitations—and give gratitude for what I can do, for the abundance I do have—has been one of the most powerful teachings of my life. My days are now filled with countless moments of internal “thank you’s.” For example, when, for the 57th day in a row my husband administers another injection of progesterone into my bruised and painful butt cheek, instead of the previous frustration and shame about my position, I feel: “Thank you that I am lucky enough to even be able to use ART. Thank you that at 45 I get to get pregnant with my sister’s help, with my husband’s financial sacrifice, with science’s advances.” How different the world looks from this shift in perspective!
So I hope you recognize the gift you give, Buffy. Know also that I recognize it and appreciate this part of your life’s work with all my heart.
I want to share with you, on a more painful note, that in the past 14 months I’ve lost all three pregnancies from my dear little sister’s donor cycle. Two have been miscarriages, and one was a devastating decision to end the pregnancy in the second trimester when we found that our baby had a severe genetic defect. We have three more embryos, and are trying to feel out how to move from here. Nobody knows why I’m miscarrying—everything keeps looking great at the start. So since I last saw you, my life goes pretty much in the cycle of being pregnant, losing it, healing from that, and preparing for the next try. All this, and I can still write all of the above. I am grateful indeed.
Much gratitude, Kathleen
(Kathleen delivered a healthy baby girl in 2011, after many years of trying).
The Mindful Fertility process was transformational! At first I was hesitant to immerse myself in a topic that was very personal to me after having complications getting pregnant. However, I quickly changed my mind after the first week -what an amazingly supportive process. Buffy Trupp handles a very sensitive topic with such grace and understanding. Each day was a different but related subject that always enlightened my perspective. The daily “progress notes” were very insightful and created a great awareness around one’s overall health and care. The support from the meditations, the recipes and treats offered each DAY made it a very complete experience. Today I sit writing these thoughts just days away from giving birth. I do think the lessons from the Mindful Fertility process that I put into action — meditation, nutrition, yoga, etc — helped us get us where we are today. I would recommend this process to anyone looking for a place to get “grounded”, to find a peaceful setting to look forward to every day, and a support system that will last beyond your next cycle. Anne, Wyoming
Buffy, I just wanted to keep you posted on our progress. I’m PREGNANT!!!! When I first found out, I was in a state of shock. I couldn’t believe that something we had been hoping for was actually true. Now that I have had a little time for it to sink in I am getting excited and feeling happy. I know this is a touch and go time but my typical defense mechanism is to not get my hopes up for fear of being let down and I don’t want to do that this time. I am choosing to be HAPPY in this moment! Thank you for this profoundly helpful process. I think you are amazing!
Hi Buffy, I think of you often and still try my best to incorporate what I learned from the Mindful Fertility process into my routine life. Learning about mindfulness and the mind-body connection proved to be incredibly effective for me on my journey to conceive. Beyond this, I have learned skills and techniques that have been helpful in every aspect of my life. Thank you Buffy! PS‚ I just had to email and tell you #3 is on the way! A BIG surprise. How strange to have this occur so quickly after all we went through with #2.
When a friend recommended you I thought to myself, I have had enough of this! I can’t do one more intervention‚ so I half heartedly glanced at the materials you sent me (including the commitment contract – great idea) and I realized that I had never TRULY committed before because I was so afraid of failing – this alone was life changing for me‚ and then I just kept showing up to do the work – like I never had before. This changed my life. Thank you.
BUFFY, I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW THAT I AM ALMOST NINE WEEKS PREGNANT WITH TWINS; AND TO SAY THANK YOU AS YOU HAD A PART IN MY SUCCESSFUL TREATMENT. YOUR EXERCISES HAVE HELPED MY OUTLOOK ON LIFE AND MY FERTILITY, WHICH HAS AFFECTED EVERYTHING.
BUFFY, I WANTED TO WRITE AND TELL YOU HE IS HERE! THE FIRST THING RANDY SAID WAS, “WE HAVE GOTTA DO THIS AGAIN,” CAN YOU BELIEVE IT? THE MAN WHO DIDN’T WANT TO TRY IVF IS HOOKED! THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME LISTEN TO HIS CONCERNS AND CONTINUE TO SPEAK MY TRUTH LOVINGLY. THIS LITTLE ONE WOULD NOT BE HERE WITHOUT YOUR HELP.
I take your meditations to acupuncture and I am blown away with the results. I leave with the deepest sense of peacefulness and I realize this is available to me in EVERY moment. Regardless of whether or not I conceive.
After 3 years of assisted reproductive treatments, I finally did a mindful fertility cycle and I did, did, did, get pregnant! I am expecting a little girl any day now. I find myself amazed at small wonders and grateful to be experiencing every inch of this. I also realize that I remain the same person‚ I still experience joy and loss. Thank you!
Caroline, San Francisco
She arrived last month what a dream come true! I was so afraid of trying IVF in case it did not work but we did it on our first try thanks, I believe, to this process. I think your work is essential and profound. Mindfulness and the insight it provided gave me a radical shift in perspective.
I would definitely advise anyone TTC to try the Mindful Fertility process. The tools are so beneficial. I started feeling a difference right away and it totally changed my perspective about many things – my fertility journey, my relationship, my life. I am sleeping better, I feel generally more at peace, more relaxed and my husband and I have had an easier time communicating. What a relief. Thank you.
My doctor told me I would NEVER conceive without assistance because my amh was .02 and my fsh was 57. I tried EVERYTHING I could locally before I found you online. I am ecstatic to report that I am 12 weeks pregnant with twins – naturally. And to tell you how grateful I am to be pregnant – yes! but even more than that – to have the tools to live a truly FERTILE life. My babies and I thank you for this essential insight.
Hi Buffy! Happy New Year. I want to thank you for all of your amazing support in getting to be a Mom this year. xoxoxoxo‚
Rita, British Columbia
I REALLY CAN’T FIND WORDS TO DESCRIBE HOW WONDERFUL MY MINDFUL FERTILITY PROCESS WAS! I AM CURRENTLY 22 WEEKS INTO MY FIRST PREGNANCY. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE TRIED IVF 2 TIMES, AND THIS TIME IT WORKED! MINDFULNESS HELPED ME TRULY EMBODY MY DESIRE FOR CHILDREN WHILE LETTING GO OF THE DEMAND I WAS PUTTING ON MYSELF TO HAVE CHILDREN. WHAT A COOL INSIGHT! AND IT HELPED. I CAN’T THANK YOU ENOUGH!
Lydia, New York