FERTILITY CHALLENGES CAN SEEM SO UNFAIR. YOUR TEARS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME ON MY SHOULDER$4.50 USD

I PROMISE TO LISTEN, AND NOT TO PUSH YOU IF YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE TALKING$4.50 USD

I KNOW HOW HARD MOTHER’S DAY MUST BE FOR YOU. I LOVE YOU. I’M HERE. $4.50 USD

PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHEN YOUR EMBRYO TRANSFER IS SO THAT I CAN COME OVER AND COOK YOU A WHOLESOME HEALTHY MEAL… AND WASH THE DISHES AFTERWARDS!$4.50 USD

LET’S GO DO SOMETHING FUN… $4.50 USD

I THINK YOUR BRUISES & BLOATING ARE VERY SEXY. FORGET BIKINI SHOPPING LET’S EAT ICE CREAM AND WATCH NETFLIX. $4.50 USD

YOU: IT’S MOTHER’S DAY, I’M MISERABLE, I’M SCARED. ME: I’M HERE WITH YOU. YOU’RE NOT ALONE. $4.50 USD

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Congratulations to the Class of 2022!

...

Jun 3

Congratulations to the Class of 2022!

#classof2022 #youarethefuture #rightofpassage #loss #bittersweet #college #movingout #legacy #goforit

When you begin the process of setting external ...

May 6

When you begin the process of setting external boundaries, you will first need to learn to set internal boundaries with the part of you, called anxiety, who will want to be in authority.

When anxiety is in authority within you, it will say to you, "What If?"

"What if I represent my needs and I'm rejected?"

or

"What if I represent my feelings and I'm ridiculed?"

When you notice anxiety in authority within you, provide for it by saying, "You're safe. It’s ok.”

And then represent your needs and feelings externally.

#mentalhealth #boundariesarehealthy #justsayno #mindfulness #mindset #therapy #ihaveneeds

Art by the talent Arla Patch
Coloring Conception - website link in Bio

Enmeshment means organizing your life around the ...

May 5

Enmeshment means organizing your life around the feelings of somebody else instead of validating and responding to the needs that you have.

Creating a boundary is your willingness and ability to say no.

When you have boundaries, you have your own feelings, needs, and wants.

#mentalhealth #boundariesarehealthy #justsayno #mindfulness #mindset #therapy #ihaveneeds

When you were little, who acknowledged you when ...

Apr 24

When you were little, who acknowledged you when you cried?

I ask this question to all of my clients.

If someone kindly acknowledged your pain, then your nervous system knew it was secure.

You knew you were safe.

If the grown-ups around you did not acknowledge your pain, your nervous system automatically told you there must be something to be anxious about.

When the caregiver, culture, friend, and family are impartial, anxiety is the result.

Mother’s Day is a painful day for so many women.

Acknowledge their pain.

My empathy cards can help.

WEBSITE LINK IN BIO

What is unrepresented within me will show up in ...

Apr 21

What is unrepresented within me will show up in the form of radical behavior.

Pain and disease are one form of radical behavior.

Ask yourself:

What am I feeling that I really want to say if I wasn't at all afraid of saying what is really happening for me?

AND/OR

What truth inside am I trying to tell myself but I'm not listening to, that I'm not acknowledging or that I haven’t
been able to say to myself?

Natural Cycle Meditation Series
Online Audio ...

Apr 8

Natural Cycle Meditation Series
Online Audio Course

Course Overview

Natural Cycle Meditation Series is a 28-day mindfulness meditation program focused on well-being. This course increases your capacity for presence, safety, and connection through the difficulty of a trying to conceive cycle. It teaches you to become a working force in your health and well-being a powerful agent of change.

Total Course Time: 7 hours 8 minutes; 15 minutes daily.

Instructor Bio
Written and Narrated by Course Instructor: Buffy Trupp, MA, RCC, LMFT

Buffy Trupp is a somatic psychotherapist and the author of the Natural Cycle Meditation Series. She has been teaching mindfulness to women and men trying to conceive for 15 years. In this 28-day meditation series, she teaches you how to discover well-being during challenging times.

Module Descriptions

Module 1: Being Aware of Reality As It Is
Meditations 1 - 7
Learn the foundational practice of mindfulness: being aware of the breath, body, and thinking to open to the present moment.

Module 2: Removing the Obstacles to Reality As It Is
Meditations 8 - 21
Practice skillfully and compassionately detaching from automatic patterns of thoughts and feelings.

Module 3: Accepting Reality As It Is
Meditations 22 - 28
Cultivate a deeper and deeper acceptance: a state of being spacious and receptive to things as they are. This open receptivity is the source of potential and the key to well-being while trying to conceive.

LINK IN BIO

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

Excerpt from Meditation 3: Module 1

...

Apr 8

Excerpt from Meditation 3: Module 1

Natural Cycle Meditation Series
Online Audio Course

Course Overview

Natural Cycle Meditation Series is a 28-day mindfulness meditation program focused on well-being. This course increases your capacity for presence, safety, and connection through the difficulty of a trying to conceive cycle. It teaches you to become a working force in your health and well-being a powerful agent of change.

Total Course Time: 7 hours 8 minutes; 15 minutes daily.

Instructor Bio
Written and Narrated by Course Instructor: Buffy Trupp, MA, RCC, LMFT

Buffy Trupp is a somatic psychotherapist and the author of the Natural Cycle Meditation Series. She has been teaching mindfulness to women and men trying to conceive for 15 years. In this 28-day meditation series, she teaches you how to discover well-being during challenging times.

Module Descriptions

Module 1: Being Aware of Reality As It Is
Meditations 1 - 7
Learn the foundational practice of mindfulness: being aware of the breath, body, and thinking to open to the present moment.

Module 2: Removing the Obstacles to Reality As It Is
Meditations 8 - 21
Practice skillfully and compassionately detaching from automatic patterns of thoughts and feelings.

Module 3: Accepting Reality As It Is
Meditations 22 - 28
Cultivate a deeper and deeper acceptance: a state of being spacious and receptive to things as they are. This open receptivity is the source of potential and the key to well-being while trying to conceive.

LINK IN BIO

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

Images can be very powerful fertility tools.
...

Feb 17

Images can be very powerful fertility tools.

When you imagine, you create.

This creation is from Day 16 of Coloring Conception, an adult coloring book for women trying to conceive.

Learn more and order here:
https://www.blurb.ca/b/7014475-coloring-conception

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject #coloringconception

When our defenses become our allies we can benefit...

Feb 14

When our defenses become our allies we can benefit from them.

We ask the defensive part, "How did you learn to serve me in this way?"

When we understand this part of us, why it took leadership, and we are in a relationship with its intelligence, we are in a position to agree with its advice, or not.

Growth is when we can set boundaries with the defensive parts and the authentic self is in authority.

For example, "My anger is my ally and I am in control of it."

Or,

When I feel anger, I can voice it in some way and then consider whether or not I want to eat/drink/smoke.

#mindfulness #meditation #mindful #meditate #stresstips #stressreliever #innerpeace #healingjourney #mentalhealth #selflove #mindfulnesspractice #stressfree #stressmanagement #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #stressrelief #selfcare #dailyinspiration #stressreduction #meditationpractice #stressless #stress #healing

This fertility coloring book offers inspiring ...

Feb 12

This fertility coloring book offers inspiring mandala designs for you to color and make your own while trying to conceive.

Each of the beautiful images has a powerful self-relaxation exercise to enhance your well-being.

By coloring and visualizing your body's fertile health, you will prime your mind for conception.

Learn more and order here:
https://www.blurb.ca/b/7014475-coloring-conception

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject #coloringconception

The only guaranteed outcome of change is ...

Feb 11

The only guaranteed outcome of change is RESISTANCE.

We experience resistance at each and every stage of growth.

If you propose change, your inner defensive parts will not want to come to the therapy session!

These parts have a purpose, intelligence, and carry a need and a desire to survive.

In the therapeutic process, we must respect them as living beings and their desire to exert their leadership as protection.

When we step into the world of the defenses and honor them, safety is established and the change process begins.

#mindfulness #meditation #mindful #meditate #stresstips #stressreliever #innerpeace #healingjourney #mentalhealth #selflove #mindfulnesspractice #stressfree #stressmanagement #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #stressrelief #selfcare #dailyinspiration #stressreduction #meditationpractice #stressless #stress #healing

There is no healing the body or healing the mind; ...

Jul 25

There is no healing the body or healing the mind; there is just healing. There is no separation! When you heal, you become. You become a Mom or whatever you long to be.

#infertility #healinginfertility #healing #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

"What everybody wants is to be understood; ...

Jul 25

"What everybody wants is to be understood; for their feelings to be acknowledged. Acknowledgment doesn't mean you have to agree. Acknowledgement means allowing what someone wants to express to be expressed."

Meditation 13 - Removing the Obstacles to Intimacy While Trying to Conceive

Natural Cycle Mediation Series

http://mindfulfertility.thinkific.com/courses/natural-cycle-meditations

#infertility #healinginfertility #healing #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

On my decade's long journey as a somatic ...

Jul 25

On my decade's long journey as a somatic psychotherapist, as a patient of psychotherapy, as a meditator, as a student of various wisdom traditions, and as a human being making embodied sense of my own trauma I’ve realized that the great unifying principle to health and well being is integrity.

In a typical conversation, we think of integrity as something we have or don’t have. The same is true for dis-ease.

But if you look closely, dis-ease and integrity are not something we have or don’t have. They are an internal representation of our lives both collectively and individually.

Dis-ease is fundamental and wise. But only when we’re informed by it.

Let’s start with language.

When we presence, become aware of, and look at the process and language, the sentiment or thought or belief that I have a dis-ease. It looks like there is an “it” called dis-ease that happens to happen inside of my body and I don’t have any access to it nor do I have any control to change it. There is a thing, an “it” called dis-ease and I have it. Doctors say I have a dis-ease and I confirm it. And so I have coherence with authority figures and with the culture. When we think like this we invest in each other’s trauma; the belief that we are separate from our bodies.

When in actuality, I don’t have a dis-ease.

I am tightening up to suppress or compress my experience. I am actively holding my experience out of my awareness. Then I take medicine or undergo surgery to deal with the symptom that I am. So trauma becomes normalized in our world, in our language, in our body, and in our medicine.

Trauma is numb to information.

Healing trauma begins by courageously becoming informed. When we learn to let dis-ease inform us, we become a working force in our own health and well-being and a powerful agent of change.

#infertility #healinginfertility #healing #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

Reality is not good or bad, right or wrong. ...

Jul 25

Reality is not good or bad, right or wrong. Reality is what's happening right now. This moment, just this moment, is the way that it is.

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

When we experience pain, our automatic tendency is...

Jul 25

When we experience pain, our automatic tendency is to hold it outside of our awareness. We do this without knowing we do this by blaming, judging, analyzing, worrying, shaming, fixing. Not feeling pain seems so justified. But we cannot heal when we can't feel. Healing is a four step process:

1. Awareness begins the healing journey. It is the process of becoming informed, of bringing how and what we hold out of awareness, into awareness. It is the process of deactivating shame and fear so we can feel what is below them.

2. Acknowledgement involves compassionately greeting all that we have denied, disowned, dissociated, projected and suppressed: beginning to feel all that we have intelligently and actively held out of our awareness.

3. Healing is the work of opening or returning connection to these suppressed, denied, dissociated, projected parts within ourself and in our relationships. The work begins within the therapeutic relationship.

4. Integration is the restoration of our capacity for presence, safety and connection through any experience; a moving toward what’s happening, even if it’s painful. This is the ultimate act of the mothering and it's essential for healthy brain development in your baby and young child.

My approach is rooted in awareness-based, somatic psychotherapy. Through a focused method of individual therapy and customized meditations, you will master healing. When you do, conception is often a side effect; spontaneous conception, conception through IVF, Egg Donation or adoption or by any means you choose to create your family.

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

When you begin setting boundaries, you will have ...

May 6

When you begin setting boundaries, you will have to provide for the part of you called anxiety.

Anxiety will say to you, "What If?"

"What if I represent my needs and I'm rejected?"

or

"What if I represent my feelings and I'm ridiculed or worse, ignored?"

To begin to provide for the part of you that is anxious, say, "You're safe. I'm here for you. I won't abandon you."

#mentalhealth #boundariesarehealthy #justsayno #mindfulness #mindset #therapy #ihaveneeds

Mindful Minute

I invite you to begin by ...

Feb 13

Mindful Minute

I invite you to begin by letting your attention descend into your body, descend out of your mind and out of your head and just let your attention descend down through your chest and into your lower belly.

Allowing your breath to move in and out through your lower belly; just attending to your breath in your belly.

If you’re not trying to control anything or change the quality of your breath, if you’re just being aware of the quality of your breath in your belly you’ll notice that it has a tendency all by itself to begin to calm the nervous system.

Just the act of conscious breathing resets the nervous system and calms it and allows it to return to a more natural state, to a more peaceful state.

Excerpt from Meditation 24 - Natural Cycle Meditation Series

Link In Bio

(Video is from a recent trip to Haida Gwaii)

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

Mindful Minute

Once again I invite you to...

Feb 10

Mindful Minute

Once again I invite you to allow yourself to become aware of the breath as a way of gathering your attention down into the body.

Allowing your attention to come out of your mind and allow yourself to be aware of your mind and your body relaxing.

And as your body relaxes, awareness and the energy of your body begin to come down and inward into the lower abdomen as you’re breathing.

And I want to remind you that to be aware doesn’t mean to be selectively aware. It doesn’t mean you’re trying to shut anything out, any thought, any feeling, any image.

To be aware just means that you’re putting your attention on the awareness itself and so if a thought arises, it’s just a thought and you’re only being aware so you’re not adding more commentary, you’re not judging yourself for thinking, you’re just only being aware of the thought as it arises and passes away.

So whatever arises, you’re just letting go of judging it in any way. Positively or negatively and you’re just letting go of commenting on it or analyzing it and you’re only being aware.

Awareness is the backdrop upon which ALL of our experience unfolds.

Sensations come and go in awareness, as do thoughts, as do feelings.

It seems like when we’re thinking our experience of ourselves is whatever we’re thinking. Our thinking becomes our experience of ourselves.

We think we are our thoughts.

That’s part of our habitual tendencies. That is part of our conditioning.

And yet thoughts come and go but somehow we exist whether we’re thinking or not.

So just take a moment and let yourself feel the deepest part of your being.

Because you’re not just experiencing awareness, how it feels, the quality of it, the texture of it but you’re actually being it.

Awareness is a deep aspect of who or what you are.

Meditation 3- Natural Cycle Meditation Series

Link In Bio

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

For a minute, begin settling into your body and ...

Feb 9

For a minute, begin settling into your body and into your breath, and just allow your attention to naturally gather into your breathing.

Notice how doing that, simply resting your attention down in the belly, starts to calm your nervous system.

You may notice your shoulders begin to relax as energy moves down from your head, down through your shoulders, down into your belly, and even now down through your feet, into the ground.

You can begin to feel that sense of rootedness and the way in which you are always being supported by awareness.

And you can feel how your body likes to feel what’s underneath, your body likes to feel what’s holding you.

Your body feels most comfortable when it’s held in awareness.

Your nervous system calms down and your body starts to feel at home and supported.

And just like awareness supports your body, your body supports the breath.

The body is the space for the breathing to happen in and there’s such a great intimacy between the breath and the body and awareness.

Meditation 7 - Natural Cycle Meditation Series

Link In Bio

#infertility #healinginfertility #awareness #mindfulness #mindbodymedicine #mindfulfertilityproject

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