A PLACE TO EXPLORE IDEAS
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Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
There is absolutely nothing wrong …
Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your desire for a child.
It’s so human, to have some yearning in the heart, some longing for connection, to be met in presence, to be seen, to be heard, to be touched, to be held and to hold.
We are relational mammals.
While having the longing for a child is perfectly natural, the reality is that it is unlikely your longing is ever going to be fully met by anyone other than you.
Know that a child will sometimes be able to meet you, love you, to see you as you are, and provide what you long for.
When they do, give thanks.
And when they do not, give thanks for the opportunity to love yourself in a revolutionary new way.
Because child or no child, it is only you who can be seduced by the ancient conclusion of yourself as unworthy of love.
It is only you who can abandon yourself to another.
And it is only you who can wake up to the beauty of things – exactly as they are.
All my very best, always,
On your journey to conceive you have no doubt become aware of at least one or two waves of despair rising and falling within you. At times you feel down, hopeless, uninspired and unable to find any meaning.
Let’s talk about the brain again. We know from the findings in neuroscience that the mental and emotional changes we can create through mindfulness are transformational at the very physical level of the brain. By developing the ability to focus our attention on our internal experience in the Mindful Fertility meditations, we are picking up a scalpel we can use to re-sculpt our neural pathways, stimulating growth of areas of the brain that are crucial to mental health and fertility.
When I began my work with Dr. Smikle, Reproductive Endocrinologist and Medical Director at Laurel Fertility Care, in SF, California, I felt the impulse to try to find the culprit, to try to fix “infertility” for men and women trying to conceive.
In 1978, the year the first IVF baby was born, subjective experience was considered irrelevant in medicine. Now we know that what we do with our mind changes the health of our body; more specifically, the action and structure of our brain. And it is our brain that governs the complex task of reproduction.
Just before the New Year, I asked my subscriber’s this question, “What would you have to feel if you gave up the hope of love coming in the future this New Year?” Many responded to this question with resistance. I was touched by their incredible awareness.
I follow a lot of fertility blogs. One of the most consistent themes I notice is a discussion about “mindset.” Which inevitably boils down to, “SHIFT your mindset and miracles happen.” Think positive, in other words. Have you tried thinking positive while trying to conceive? It is like a Chinese finger trap. Our immediate, automatic reaction to any unpleasant experience is to set up a goal – to avoid the experience, to push it away, to get rid of it, or to fix it. This includes positive thinking. This reaction is called aversion. Aversion underlies all the thinking patterns that get us stuck in unwanted emotions while trying to conceive.