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A New Mythology Is Emerging In The Fertility Community
The appearance of new ways of thinking and communicating, between 70,000 & 30,000 years ago, constitutes the Cognitive Revolution.
These new ways of thinking and communication enabled humans to conquer the world.
Partly because our language is supple.
And it evolved as a means of sharing information.
Yet the truly unique feature of our language is not its ability to transmit information about hormones and ovaries. Things that exist.
Rather, it’s the ability to transmit information about things that do not exist at all.
Legends, myths, gods and religion appeared for the first time with the Cognitive Revolution.
Many animals and human species could previously say, “Woman” or “Baby.”
Thanks to the Cognitive Revolution, humans acquired the ability to say, “A woman without a baby has a disease.”
Humans can believe six impossible things before breakfast!!!
You could never convince a rabbit to believe she has a disease if she isn’t able to have a baby.
But why is this important while trying to conceive?
Fiction has enabled us not merely to imagine things, but to do so collectively.
We can weave common myths such as sex before marriage is a sin, abortion is illegal, menstruation is shameful, it is a woman’s job to give her husband an heir, challenges conceiving are pathology and a woman who cannot bear children has a disease.
Yuval Harari, in his groundbreaking work, Sapiens, explains such common myths give humans the unprecedented ability to cooperate flexibly in large numbers.
He writes, “Ants and bees can also work together in huge numbers, but they do so in a very rigid manner and only with close relatives.
Wolves and chimpanzees cooperate far more flexibly than ants, but they can do so only with small numbers of other individuals that they know intimately.
Humans can cooperate in extremely flexible ways with large numbers of strangers.
Large numbers of strangers can cooperate successfully by believing in common myths.
Any large scale human cooperation – whether a modern state, a church or a medical corporation – is rooted in common myths that exist only in people’s collective imagination.
Churches are rooted in common religious myths. Two Catholics who have never met can nevertheless go together on crusade or pool funds to build a hospital because they both believe that God was incarnated in human flesh and allowed Himself to be crucified to redeem our sins.
States are rooted in common national myths. Two Serbs who have never met might risk their lives to save one another because both believe in the existence of the Serbian nation, the Serbian homeland and the Serbian flag.
Medical corporations are rooted in common pathology myths. A doctor and a patient who have never met can decide on a treatment and get the procedure funded because they both believe in the existence of a common pathology.
Judicial system are rooted in common legal myths. Two lawyers who have never met can nevertheless combine efforts to defend a complete stranger because they both believe in the existence of laws, justice, human rights – and the money paid out in fees.
Yet none of these things exists outside the stories that people invent and tell one another. There are no gods in the universe, no nations, no pathology, no cures, no money, no human rights, no laws and no justice outside the common imagination of human beings.”
In the Mindful Fertility process, we take a deep look at the cultural myths at the very foundation of our subconscious mind.
Myths about our value as women and our ability to conceive.
Myths that program our nervous system to manufacture shame, fear and powerlessness in our biochemistry.
We also address the painful grief women and men feel who cooperate in believing these myths only to find they physically suffer because of their compliance.
There is no greater pain than to cooperate successfully in myths that hurt you and then be told you have a disease.
“Reproductive disturbances are ABSOLUTELY adaptive.
Their purpose is to PROTECT YOU when you are not sufficiently nourished or emotionally/socially supported to be in good health and to birth a healthy child.
BELIEVING THIS IS THE HEALING.”
Perhaps “infertility” is the body’s healthy response to living in a society, a mythology and a world that are incredibly unwell?
Perhaps each body is decidedly “right,” and simply responding to an unhealthy environment?
Perhaps that responding is decided “right,” too?
Women in the Mindful Fertility process believe they can heal from myths.
They take it upon them selves to create the inner conditions of safety. They nourish themselves physically, cognitively and emotionally.
They teach their bodies to manufacture progesterone, not cortisol.
They learn to know their own mind, they learn the truth about who they are; they learn how to let the truth about who they are heal their body.
In 2019, what if you thought of your reproductive system as adaptive and healthy?
And believed it!
All my very best, always,
When my son was 3 years old, approx. one year after he acquired language, he asked me, “Why doesn’t Daddy love me?”
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THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE tool I teach women who are having trouble conceiving or carrying to term is this:
Acknowledge the pain, the shame, the loss, the powerlessness, without needing it to go away (without aversion).
Your fertility story is the very foundation of the Mindful Fertility process. Even if you’ve done tons of therapy, as you pursue your longing for a child, as your vulnerability increases, as you heal, change your behavior, change your state of consciousness, at every new level of growth and expansion, it’s your fertility story that determines your “success” because the image of a successful cycle is held in your implicit memory – deep in your sub-conscious mind.
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.
Most women and couples who earnestly begin to practice mind-body medicine, have found that analytical thinking and rational problem solving based on implicit dominant cultural ideas about the body; paradigms that use Newtonian physics to think about matter, paradigms informed by patriarchy, haven’t helped them solve the riddle of their symptoms.