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Step 1: Nutrition (Natural Treatment Protocols for 7 Hormonal Conditions)
Step 2: Self Acupressure & Yoga (4 Instructional Videos to Thicken the Uterine Lining)
Step 3: Mindfulness Meditation (2 Audio Meditations to Reduce Stress and Depression)
A Despair That Is Whole
On your journey to conceive you have no doubt become aware of at least one or two waves of despair rising and falling within you.
At times you feel down, hopeless, uninspired and unable to find any meaning.
Everyone around you is announcing pregnancies and you are thinking…
What is wrong with me?
There is a deeply embedded cultural fantasy that you shouldn’t feel depressed, that this sort of downheartedness while trying to conceive is a clear sign that you are doing something wrong, that you have failed and are flawed in some fundamental way.
I mean, a “spiritual” person wouldn’t feel depressed, right?
We seem to be quite confused about this.
But what if this despair were a legitimate experience?
What if in the totality of what you are, a wave or a period of “unhappiness” is just as authentic and genuine as a wave of “happiness?”
Love not only takes the form of flow, birth and so called “positive” feelings, but at times as the activity of death and deflation, reorienting old narratives so rebirth can occur.
This cycle is the essence of creativity!
And appears to be non-negotiable on the path of the heart and of becoming who you truly are.
While we don’t get to choose what exactly dances within us, we have some choice as to whether we will willingly participate – whether we greet each reality with self-aggression or kindness, whether we will dare to see death and deflation not as mistakes but as potential opportunities, even if we cannot, at this time, understand their guidance.
To open to life does not require that we like what is happening, love it, or even “accept” it.
It means that whether we like it or not, we take a moment to turn toward it and open to the possibility that it is purposeful.
What if this diagnosis, this pain, is intelligent and a forerunner of new life not an expression of pathology but of a non-conventional sort of grace?
This mindset shift is an essential part of what I teach you in The Mindful Fertility Journal.
All my very best, always,
When my son was 3 years old, approx. one year after he acquired language, he asked me, “Why doesn’t Daddy love me?”
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The appearance of new ways of thinking and communicating, between 70,000 & 30,000 years ago, constitutes the Cognitive Revolution. These new ways of thinking and communication enabled humans to conquer the world.
THE MOST TRANSFORMATIVE tool I teach women who are having trouble conceiving or carrying to term is this:
Acknowledge the pain, the shame, the loss, the powerlessness, without needing it to go away (without aversion).
Your fertility story is the very foundation of the Mindful Fertility process. Even if you’ve done tons of therapy, as you pursue your longing for a child, as your vulnerability increases, as you heal, change your behavior, change your state of consciousness, at every new level of growth and expansion, it’s your fertility story that determines your “success” because the image of a successful cycle is held in your implicit memory – deep in your sub-conscious mind.
One of the very first psychological processes that gets triggered while trying to conceive is self-doubt.